Against dating interracial people
Not bad uncomfortable — more the type of uncomfortable that pushes you to recognize your privilege and to try and reconcile the past.
Afterward I looked at him and I was like, “I really hope you know I’m not racist.” He’s met my entire extended family and I was like: “I really hope you know this is not a possibility with my family, everybody loves you.” But after the movie, I could just feel eyes on us.
I laughed a lot at the jokes partly because I was so uncomfortable.
Tavis: I didn’t come away from it questioning you, Michelle.
I just kind of saw Rose as the conduit through which privilege and microaggressions occurred.
I think people saw a strict black-male white-woman romantic relationship, whereas I saw it as more of a black-white relationship in general.
I’ve been reading a lot of think pieces about how white progressives aren’t really taking away the right lessons from the film, like how they are Rose [Allison Williams’s character, the white girlfriend], and they appear benevolent but in reality they are perpetrating the same social crimes and macro- and microaggressions but automatically identify with the protagonist. The whole time I was cringing at her family because I was like that’s exactly what my family is like.
So I guess I was exposed to it at such a young age it doesn’t bother me anymore.
I did visit her grandparents one time, and they showed me nothing but kindness, but I guess her grandfather thought I was uncomfortable because I was the only black person at dinner.
Jordan Peele’s acclaimed horror-comedy about a black man who finds himself in a nightmare while visiting his white girlfriend’s suburban family — is the kind of film that gets under your skin, using horror-film tropes to illuminate the daily terror of being black in a white world.
We talked to seven interracial couples of various backgrounds about how watching the film made them reflect on their own relationships, the enduring stress of “meeting the parents,” and whether they’ll be RSVPing for the next family reunion — “TBD,” as one of our interviewees put it. I just kept thinking about what other people in the theater were thinking about me and him and our relationship, and I felt uncomfortable.